As I’m packing my life into boxes and storage containers, I’m finding myself nostalgic at moments. I just found a file box from over 20 years ago. Inside was a folder with many pieces I wrote when I was younger. I wanted to share this one with you. I was 17.
I will never forget sitting on my special grassy hill in college, a place of much introspection and inspiration. I wrote this and I must say that I still feel the same way today. Don’t exist within a mold and don’t let anyone or anything define you. You define YOU.
As a parent, we can easily fall into the mold society and previous generations tell us to fit into. I am thankful that my instinct guides me to my own places and my own choices. I am thankful that I trust this and follow it each day. I suppose this was appropriate to find today. I am definitely living these words and allowing myself to LIVE and be FREE. I wish the same for you.
The tide of existence protects us from and exposes us to the harsh nature of this place. As the waves crash from a distance, we are forced to open our eyes and face what we know is there. As the tide comes into shore, we are blinded by the realities before us. As it goes back out, we see more clearly, not only what we want to see, but rather, all that hides in the stretch of sand beneath it’s Mother.
Why are we so afraid of this vision? We create superficialities in order to better understand who we are, what we are, what we’re doing and why. We’re so mesmerized by these false perceptions that we mistake them for the truth. What is the truth? What is real? That which the tide covers and at times reveals, I’d rather not see, Everything around us is more or less temporary and sooner or later, the problems of today will fade into the light of tomorrow.
There should be no final destination of goal to reach, no ladder to climb. The path need still be there but only as an unformed, undefined passage that contains no boundaries. Regulations, rules and social conventions bound us from the freedom our bodies so desperately need for expression. Why can’t we just be free and experience what it is to “Live” rather than “Exist” in this mold formed around us? ~ Sandy Gordon Frankfort
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The title of this post is a line from a movie I just saw. Cloud Atlas. I am still in such a deep and introspective space since watching this film. These words inspire me to share my thoughts and reach out to you.
The links that connect us. The energy that forms us. The souls we once were, the souls we are in this life, and and the souls we become. Is the soul the same and just the body form changes? I believe so.
The people we meet. The familiarity. The Love. The Dislike. The chills you feel when someone walks by. The connection you feel when looking into someone’s eyes you may have thought you never met…in this life anyway. The bonds we form and share. The people that are put here to enlighten us. We are all here to teach each other something and the willingness to be open to the lessons are so important.
I have always believed the simple saying, Everything Happens For a Reason. I’ve always believed that I’ve been here before. I know many of you. Past and Present. We are connected for many reasons and I choose to be open to why.
As I write this, tears fall down my face. I can’t believe how powerful this Life is. I can’t believe how amazing the gift of Love is. Truly. The gift of health. The choice we are given to be kind. To be compassionate. To be love. I realize this may sound silly but if only you could feel my heart. If only you knew how much Love I have inside.
We are all bound to one another. In this lifetime and in the next. How we treat each other. What we do. What we don’t do. These actions will all affect the outcomes in our future. Karma. Some of you use that word daily, some of you quickly dismiss it and say you don’t believe in it. For those of you non-believers, what about it doesn’t make sense to you?
I realize that bad people sometimes receive goodness in their lives and good people, sadly, receive pain and suffering they don’t deserve. This said, I believe it will eventually come back to you. This life form that we are in right now, is your chance to get it. To grow. To redeem past mistakes. To create a different future for yourself, those you are connected to, and the next form you show up in.
I know this world is vast. I know many of us do our part to be the change we see and want. I also know that so many things separate and divide us. I don’t give up. I don’t determine that I am powerless, even though many things sadden me. We must articulate our Voice. We must share our Love, even in the faces of adversity and hatred.
I’ll never forget an old friend of mine who used to make fun of me and the naiveté he used to say I possessed. He’d say that the love and hearts and happiness I surrounded myself with made me seem childlike. He thought it was guileless that I was so passionate about love. Not love for just another person, but rather the love I felt for humanity. For all of you. For all people. I remember I took a look at myself and had to wonder if something was wrong with me. Maybe I was wide eyed and unaffected. I realized however, that I was thankful for these traits.
I will say this. Innocence and love may seem naive. They may make you appear to be someone who hasn’t yet been jaded or beaten down by the harsh realities of the world. They may make you appear as if you haven’t experienced hardships in your life yet. I will tell you that none of this is true. It is in fact those harsh realities and hardships that make me choose Love in every moment.
Please keep Love within your soul and your heart and spread it. Give it away. Each day. To everyone. You may not be innocent of all crimes and you may not think you have it or deserve it, but we all do. We all must Love and believe we are deserving of Love. There isn’t a more powerful emotion, expression or gift on this earth. There isn’t a force greater. It is LOVE, not Hate, that will change us.
We will perish in this life. We will be heard by at least One. Hopefully many more. Your voice and the stands you take in this Being will be heard and witnessed. Some form of change will take place because you believed.
Don’t be afraid. Don’t underestimate the person next to you, the old man in the elevator, the woman on the street, the child in the chair next to you at the hospital. Just take the time to look into their eyes. It only takes one second. That glance. Our souls will remember and we will consciously or unconsciously connect with the people we are supposed to. We will create our next day, our next life by who we are here Today. Please remember this.
In closing, I must share another line from the movie that moved me deeply.
“My Life Extends Far Beyond the Limitations of ME.”
May you choose to walk forward with this awareness and understand that we are all the same. We are all connected. We all need to Love. Make your choices based on that. I don’t believe any of us like seeing others suffer nor enjoy suffering ourselves. In the name of someone else or for any other reason.
Please take the time. Find the Empathy. Find the Compassion. Find the Kindness. Be LOVE. Always Be Love.
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I just wanted to give an update on my little 2 year old’s tooth. I wrote recently about him having a little accident on his bike and cracking it. The first dentist suggested he should have it pulled. This meant baby straight jacket and major trauma for my little man and trauma for mama as well. He was not interested. Neither was I. On to the next opinion…
My wonderful friend Jamie saw my post and suggested I call her Dad, a retired pediatric dentist. I can’t tell you how helpful it was to receive such special attention from her father and her mother. I spoke with both of them a few times and they referred me to a dentist they loved for a second opinion. By way of the telephone and emails, it was assessed that the tooth could hopefully be saved and if nothing else, left alone. I just had to be on the lookout for abcesses which were a possibility if the nerve died.
Thankfully, during our visit to the dentist, it was decided that we could leave the tooth alone. My lucky, little wild man must have just missed the nerve. It cracked from top to bottom and the loose part was a little less than half of the tooth. So, we headed out and decided that no trauma, made that day a very good day!
I kept an eye on it and it was loose, so he missed out on corn on the cob for a while. He loves corn on the cob so you may not realize what a sacrifice that was. The other day, he was building legos and paused for a moment and walked over to me. He showed me something in his hand and said, “Look Mommy, me tooth fell out.” Sure enough, it was that portion of it that was loose that had fallen out and the other part remained perfectly in tact. He then said for the remainder of the day, “Me tooth fell out and me no have to go to dentist to have it pulled.” “Me so Lucky.” His excitement had only just begun.
After this happened, I got to introduce my boys to the wonderful world of the Tooth Fairy!
I told them all about this magical being who flies through the sky looking for little children who’ve lost their teeth. My little one got so excited and asked if he would come over to our house. I told him that I might be able to send him a message if he wanted to put in a special request for what he wanted as a token gift for losing his tooth. His request: m & m’s and glow sticks for his brother and himself. How could I refuse that? He knew this was a special occasion because otherwise he says, “candy is junk.” “It gives me a tummy ache and will make holes in my teeth.” He assured me that he would brush his teeth right after he ate this said junk
He asked me to please send an email or text to the Tooth Fairy with his wishes. Yes, he did say email or text. So, that evening, he just couldn’t wait to get to bed! He told me we had to put his tooth in a box so we could leave it for him. He told me we better take pictures, in case the tooth fairy can’t see him in the dark, to prove he lost his tooth. He asked if we could leave a present and some water for the tooth fairy. He was wondering how he would be able to fly and carry all of those things at once. He said, “Maybe he’ll have to bring a big bag and make two trips.” We set up the tooth and put it under his pillow, we emailed him the pictures and the request for gifts, and he went to bed with such enthusiasm and innocence. He hoped the Tooth Fairy would hug and kiss him when he came in. He made sure I opened the bedroom window for him to fly through.
The next morning he opened his eyes and had the biggest smile on his sweet, little face. He asked me to look under his pillow with him and there he found a gift bag! He could’t believe it. He opened it and all that he wanted was there. He was soooooo happy!!
For the remainder of the day, he told me he wanted the Tooth Fairy to come back so he could hug him and thank him. He really wanted to show his gratitude and meet this mythical figure. He asked if we could paint a special picture and leave it for him in case he stops back in the neighborhood. We did.
These are memorable moments. There is nothing like the innocence and awe of a child. You wonder if they really believe in these fables or they just play along. Either way, the storytelling on my end, and the sweetness, love and fascination on his, makes for memories I will cherish forever. Imagination is extraordinary.
Aston is very proud of his new smile. He feels so fortunate that he escaped an intimidating dental experience…for now. I’m going to hope everything continues to be okay and in 4 to 5 years, his new tooth comes in easily and without any issues.
The Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and other figments of our children’s imagination and the world’s creation, are so precious. I see their faces light up so beautifully and I remember that feeling so well. All was good in our world. We didn’t know fear. We didn’t know hate. Our only goal was to fulfill our curiosity. I clearly remember always feeling love. I’ve been working every day since those days as a young girl, to keep that alive within myself and now, to share that with my boys.
May You Create Magic in your Life Today and Let Your Imagination Take You Anywhere You Want To Go. Then… Really Go There.
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